10 Things You Shouldn't Ask A Woman (About Having A Baby)

Here I was ready to write about different ways to get rid of or dodge unwanted guests, thanks to my recent dealings with a certain someone, but what do you know? Life had some other plans altogether!

Monday mornings have this dexterity to curve ball plans into something entirely different. Well, that’s exactly what happened today. So, if you find this post tedious or too serious, blame it on Mondays not me!

Moving on.

What is your take on problems or obstacles?

Have you noticed how we always feel that ours are the biggest and the harshest of the lot? Whenever anything goes wrong we scream about life being unfair, especially on us. Or, simply that for some God-forsaken reason the grass just doesn’t grow green on our side of the divide. While it can be true, not denying that, it is not exclusive only to us.

Everyone has their own demons to fight. Or, their battles to win.

Trust me, just like us there are others who don’t win every battle, every time. But do you know what the sad thing is? Sometimes people don’t even win the war.

But what am I getting at?

Since we all have our share of troubles you would think we would be sensitive to each other’s plights as well. But the truth, sadly, is far from it.

There is a peculiar sadistic delight we seek in rubbing ones worries on their faces. 

While talking to a few friends of mine I realized how eager we are to intensify each others pain. Each of them had a story to share about that aunt or acquaintance who crossed the line into hurting them in the guise of concern. 

Take the example of married women in India who do not yet have a child, are trying to have a child or choose not to have a child. Here's what happens.

I have just mentioned a few things here. Believe me when I say this, there is more. It's all true too because these are not derived after reading some news reports or a figment of my imagination. These are conclusions I have arrived at after having spoken to many of my friends and colleagues over the years. And being married for almost 5 years now, I have faced a fair bit of nonsense from these nosy buffoons as well.

For some reason, we find it reasonable to hit where it hurts or pull someone down further. Sometimes we do it without even realizing it. Yes, that's how normal (not) it is to do that here. We poke our nose in a business which is not really ours, time and again. Strange thing is, we don’t even care if that eventually hurts someone. We don't care if our poking leaves a long term impact on the psyche of someone.

I usually deal with unsought advise by making it clear in no uncertain terms that it is only my business and nobody else's. If they can be shameless, what's stopping me from being blunt? But not everyone is the same.

I don't know why we as humans do that. Do you?

But I can tell you this that there are certain things we shouldn't even dare ask someone, let alone a woman. We need to know our limits. We need to know where to draw the line.

So, maybe the women our there need to put up a list to thwart these nonsensical inquiries. A list saying which questions shouldn't be asked of them ever. Maybe walk with copies of this list into a room full of these praying mantis types?

What do you say?

Here is a list that I can think of. You are welcome to add yours here.

Seems I covered all variations for married women, well, almost. Why don't you add on to the list too?


Linking to #MicroblogMondays & #MondayMusings



Labels: ,