It’s so easy to sit on a pedestal and
pass judgments, isn't it? Judge people, more specifically women on a scale of morality
designed on the whims of the society. Well, it certainly seems so, otherwise
the kind of ludicrous declarations in the name of upholding culture, traditions
or the labels attributed to women wouldn't have been made in the first place.
And it doesn't end there, does it? From your home to your work place, there is
no dearth of people who feel this innate urge to make things difficult for
women, any woman. And they belong to both sides of the gender divide. Whether
they do it consciously or subconsciously, well, doesn't even matter.
Something as basic as what a woman wears strangely seems to be everybody else’s business. Why? Well, apparently the honor of the family and society rests on what she wears. And it’s not even restricted to only that, not that it’s acceptable even at that. It extends to whom she chooses as her life partner, if she chooses a life partner at all, if she goes on to become a mother or not. The list is actually endless. I think a woman’s honor is her own and as long as she is comfortable in her own skin, doing what she likes, the rest doesn't matter, shouldn't matter. This inherent necessity to control women’s lives starts from the minutest of things and assumes proportions beyond compare.
It’s simple really, we don’t need
anybody to tell us what we can do with our bodies. How hard is that to
understand? The supporters of patriarchy or those who have been raised with a patriarchal
mindset fear women who express their sensuality and choice. What was being said
and done by men all along, the same if articulated by a woman in so many words creates
This dichotomy stems from something that has been drilled in
our mindsets that women need to be submissive. The sad reality being women too
abuse other women giving voice to this misogynistic approach.