Look closely and you'll see how adventurous life is in reality. No, not of the Everest climbing or sky diving type, while those certainly qualify. What I'm talking about here are quests very different and perhaps more challenging than those.
These are crusades which people, regular people, find themselves involved in, sometimes more than once in their lifetime. These are more about emotional turmoils than physical pursuits. And quite a few of these are man-made too or rather imposed by society.
In India, marrying the one you love, while still holding on to your sanity, often falls in this category. Call it struggle or fight, whatever you wish, fact is sometimes these quests become so excruciating that just the mere thought or reminiscence of it is enough to send you in a downward spiral of pain.
Just this past Saturday, S and I celebrated the 4th Anniversary of one such pursuit. Our marriage anniversary or the day when we won a huge battle in the long standing fight to spend our lives together. The anniversary of a not so perfect, yet in some ways perfect, day. The day we got our marriage certificate after a 5 year long courtship. Yes, sometimes we feel that's what that day was for us in reality. But since crossing that day also gave us the life we have together, I guess in all fairness, it was all worth it in some weird twisted way.
“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life
of your dreams.”- Oprah Winfrey
Funny how this society
conceptualizes marriage. It's more about the caste, language and families rather
than the individuals actually involved. This 'to hell with love' attitude,
honestly, I don't think is really healthy. Yes, it might have worked in the past but times have changed now. I'm not saying
arranged marriages no longer work. What I'm saying is when two
individuals have chosen each other as life partners it's wrong to force
them to go the arranged way. The choice of a life partner is probably one of the biggest and most important decision in your life and nobody has the right to have a say in it except you yourself.
“..it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.” ― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Maybe, the next generation will
have it easier. At-least, I hope so. Till then I say, enjoy your adventures and
whatever happens don't let go of the one you love, of the one you choose. So, on a week where I recall my exploits of finally tying the knot with S, I wish you a life full of love and adventure. Well, maybe a little more love and a little less adventure, what do you say?