Blood is always thicker than water, exceptions are only in case of better-halfs...


I had read somewhere....
"Friend of my Bosom,thou more than a brother,why wert tou not born in my father's dwellings"...

But in today's day and age do such friends exist...??Well if they do,I definitely haven't come across many...

"I HAVE had playmates, I have had companions,    
In my days of childhood, in my joyful school-days—    
All, all are gone, the old familiar faces..."

Its not like I never had very good friends...I did,and still manage to hold on to a few good ones..But there is a very uncanny similarity between all "so called friends",which is-you are considered a good friend till the moment you are listening to them,sympathizing with their situations but just when you, being their friend, point out your friend's short comings,so that the latter may become a better person,U become interfering and indifferent...Your friend starts referring to you as a "thing" in conversations with others....
A relationship is built on communication which is always a two way process...But most "friends" only want you to listen to them and their problems...and either they are least interested in what's happening to you or they are busy broadcasting your plight to others instead of making an effort to find a solution....Even though you would have spent hours after hours being a silent listener to your friends,the same wouldn't be reciprocated towards you...Your problems,heartaches are trifles always to these impostors who call themselves "friends"... So if this is what friends are for then its better we don't have any...

Of course there are a handful few of true friends who don't expect anything at all from you...They are there to accept you the way you are,be tolerant with your anger,be comfortable in your silence,and ready to lend a patient ear to your side of the story...They take criticism in their stride...
But like all good things, they too are few and far in between...

So here's a litmus test to see if your friend is indeed worth having in your circle...Tell him about the mistakes he commits whenever he commits,or shun him when he is wrong..If he still respects you ,then hold on to him till you die...if not,then its better to die then having him around...For a change don't listen to your friends ' stories about their love life or work,instead try making them listen to you....If they actually take a interest in what you have to say,then you've got yourself a true friend right there...if not, well even better...

In a nutshell,It is always the family to whom you are related by blood that understands you and accepts you for who you are...You would have had the worst fight ever with your siblings but then that doesn't lead to destroying your relationship with them, let alone erasing all the good times you have spent together...But on the other hand if it happens with a friend ,the latter may hurt you and leave you sour forever,for giving so much trust and effort in your relationships with such hypocrites....But again...you enjoy the liberty; that you have with your siblings and parents; with your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend,provided you are seriously in love and together....They are not related by blood but will be as strong a support as any blood relation....

I have had many friends or rather "so called friends" who have back stabbed me and some have even poured venom upfront...Believe me that it is one of the worst feelings you ever go through when you see the ugly side of a friend of your's ...Though sanity compels that you don't need them in your lives,but there is always a regret-either 'coz you chose such a friend or 'coz you let them get that much close to hurt you....

To fairly conclude,its better to just have your family and spouse/girlfriend or boyfreind near you instead of "FALSE FRIENDS"....and blood is defeinitely thicker then water,though exceptions are there but finding one  is like finding a needle in a hay stack.

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