Why is "Inter caste" marriage looked as a "sin" to people....??
In 2008-09, there were only 4,750 inter-caste marriages in India considering to what number the population of our country is sky rocketing ....!!!
Are we still living in Medieval India....???
Nitish Katara,Rizwanur Rahman,Nirupama....... who's going to be next...??
Loyalty to family, clan and caste is considered important in India.
It is forbidden for the young to be in love with the ‘other', no mater how capable he or she is, "caste" is given top priority by elders.We have no respect for the individuals who belong to other castes...strange...!! and We are the ones' creating hoopla about "respect" and "duty".History tells us that society was divided into "caste" based on an individuals occupation...hmm...so shouldn't two people in the same profession be allowed to be married...!!!???Communities boast of traditions...In that pride we become conceited and to an extent inhumane...but is it the community or the individual?
"biraadari" , "samajh" , "bhasha"..... we hide behind these cloaks...but is it our hypocrisy or just ignorance...The strangest thing is even good people, people who have never ever done anything remotely wrong in their lives sadly think the same way...I wish to change this thinking...but what can I do... I am just a person.... an "other" for so many "others".
Hinduism declares that there are always innumerable paths to God n one’s belief or perception of God is an individual matter.Although Hinduism is historically one of the worlds most tolerant religions, inter caste marriage is still a taboo for Hindus !!!!
Young couples belonging to different castes and religions find it very difficult to marry each other due to the protests from their families.More often then not inter caste marriage ends in honor killing...But this is the scenario after marriage...what happens to people who can't marry due to social restrictions...due to "caste"...Is an individual's decision on Inter-Cast marriage;an individual's fate OR the fate of the society?"Rules" to marry within the same "caste" had been made by a bunch of nonchalant ignorant people who are now dead and gone...but sadly we people in modern times too follow these rules....Instead of fighting against poverty,illiteracy,female infanticide,dowry n dowry related deaths,water,electricity shortage,murders,rapes...we spend our time and energy in ensuring 2 perfectly compatible people never marry each other as they belong to different caste.
"caste" is a cancer that has plagued the happiness and lives of many people....ruined lives of several....Only when it is made a punishable offense in law to stop marriages in the name of caste will We ,the so called upholders of traditions stop menacing the lives of many... or will we !!! What can deter us !!! ???
When two people are perfectly compatible and willing to spend their lives together,should a third person's view matter...? I say it may matter specially in a country like India where the opinions of near and dear ones are important....But should the "third persons" have the final say... I don't think so....It is time we do something about this to remove this bane from our society...
There have been so many instances of inter caste inter fate marriages working,why can't we learn from that !!!If some people can live happily in spite of belonging to different backgrounds then why can't we allow the rest of the people to even try doing it...When will we stop being egocentric...It is us who makes up this society so can't we make a promise that we won't mock a person just because he or she belongs to a different caste....
Is it our fear of being ousted from our so called social circle stopping us from moving ahead and shedding this inhibition of allowing and accepting inter caste,inter faith marriages ? Perhaps yes... but shouldn't we shut them up saying that it's our life and our decision...Maybe our parents can't do that...'coz this is how they have been forever...fair enough ...but we can pledge as young Indians that we shall never stop our children from marrying into a different caste or different faith...Let us pledge to make India better...
"Caste","Religion" based divisions have always harmed the society...Think of how ridiculous it would be if we had say cricket teams for different castes...!!It would never work...Or say we would have caste based film industry or caste based seating arrangements in office...It would be disastrous... So let art,cricket, etc imitate life and let us take a step forward instead of going back to ancient times....
Lets advocate inter caste and inter faith marriages....Let it be an individual's choice or else Marriage would become a burden and life a punishment....